Comments on: The Line Between Confidence & Arrogance

By: Steve Errey - Confidence Guy

Steve Errey - Confidence Guy — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 16:44:00 +0000

I hate how many people are affected by the past behaviour of others, and sorry to hear you’re having a tough time.

I don’t know you and I don’t your fiance, so it could be arrogance, it could be confidence or it could just be ignorance. Often, particularly with guys, they do something or say something without really thinking it through. They just throw out a flippant comment or a quick put down and think nothing of it – they don’t intend it to hurt, it’s just a thing they do.

There are ways to change it, and you might wanna get hold of my ebook “Staying Up When You’re Put Down”, which has a heap of strategies for dealing with this:

http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/stayingup-when-youre-put-down/

Let me know how you get on.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 05:52:00 +0000

Hi Steve. I myself have very little confidence. The reason is poor self esteem and due to past treatment by others. How can I fix this? … On the otherhand my fiancé comes across being very arrogant at times. He says he just a confident person. I know better. It’s definitely arrogance. Any thoughts on how to get him to stop when he acts this way or what advice I could give him?

Thank you,
Robin

By: Daniel

Daniel — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 13:32:01 +0000

Steve, thank you for the clarification between arrogant and self-confident. I realize now that I avoid self-confidence because I have confused that with arrogance. As a W.A.S.P., I am exist in a world where arrogance is called confidence and respected but I have always loathed the traits of the arrogant person. However, I constantly see arrogant people being rewarded for their arrogance because far too many other people are not self-confident enough to withstand the arrogance. With this new knowledge about the differences between arrogance and self-confidence, I feel a release to be self-confident without being arrogant.

By: Tee

Tee — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 08:45:55 +0000

Wow, this has been enlightening I’d say I was a confident person even too confident at times, but I see alot of myself above so what I see as confidence is really arrogance and I would never have said that I was.
Time to do something about it. Thanks Steve.

By: Steve

Steve — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 06:53:19 +0000

@Karen: I’m know nothing about ADD and it’s certainly not my place to judge. That said, these points are based on what I’ve observed and how I’ve seen many people behave. Compassion doesn’t come into it.

@Bob: Welcome aboard Bob!

By: bob

bob — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:22:44 +0000

That’s a bit touchy Karen

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 19:17:18 +0000

You’ve also described a person with ADD……..This article sounds like a lot of judgement to me rather than compassionate observations