My trip to NYC certainly put the wind back into my sails. I love cities. I love walking around them, I love sitting in a bar chatting with the locals, I love discovering a great little coffee shop or restaurant, I love wandering down a side street that looks interesting, I love the sounds and smells and the way the air smells different. I love getting under the skin of a city.
So spending time in one of the most amazing cities on the planet reinvigorated and recharged me.
The day after I got back I was at a party in London, and despite being a little upset at being home I was having a blast catching up with a load of good people. I’m chatting to everyone and getting involved like I love to do, and I ended up spending a lot of the night chatting with a woman who I’d never met before.
I’m flirting like a trooper, and at the end of the night I point blank ask her for her number. Now, my friends will tell you that that’s really not my style. At all. I love to flirt, but I can actually be quite shy with women and I’m certainly no pick-up artist.
That night though, I didn’t’ even think about whether I was going to ask for her number or not. I just did it because I loved talking with her, found her fascinating and she just happened to be incredibly cute. The fact that I was recharged and operating at my best meant that I was free to make bold choices that serve me well. And it worked.
My point is that it’s easy to forget to do the bold thing when you become constrained by what you think is normal or what you think is expected. I’m as guilty of sometimes forgetting that as much as the next guy or gal.
“Boldness has genius, power and magic in it” – Goethe
It’s an old and pretty much overused quotation, but it’s a valid message. Doing the bold thing will always take you a little bit out of your comfort zone, simply because being bold means stepping outside of the rules you’ve created to allow yourself to be spontaneous and improvise.
I’m frequently bold when it comes to my career – I’ve made all kinds of things happen just by being bold enough (and cheeky enough) to drop people emails directly, to ask for what I’m looking for or make connections with the right people.
I forgot to be bold in my love life
True confidence frees you up to do the bold thing; the thing that takes you that little bit further, the thing that puts a little more magic into your life.
I’m a big fan of magic and boldness, and I’m looking forward to seeing my new “friend” again soon.