Comments on: How to Deal with People Who Put You Down http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/ Wired into Truly Confident Living Mon, 14 May 2012 20:18:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Yourfuturekid http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-1/#comment-33085 Yourfuturekid Mon, 14 May 2012 20:18:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33085  Get out! now! I am a child of exactly the same kind of marriage. Exactly. My dad is 60 now, mom 55, and am 25. He stills makes her look like a fool in front of everyone. Puts her down because she is not educated. After 27 years of this verbal and emotional abuse, my mom has zero confidence to stand upto anyone even outside the marriage. I am putting up with this shit for a year ( since I moved back home after last year at 24) but am secretly marshalling resources to move out. Forever. Start my own business. Work hard at it and stay the fuck away from my father's emotional abuse. My mom says at times, (when she is not trying to lie to herself and the society ) that she stayed in this marriage only for the sake of me. I would rather that she divorced the shit away when I wasnt even born. Do you want to feel this way after 25 years? Decide. I am like the future version of your kid and am telling whats going to happen. Get out when you can, sweetheart.  Get out! now! I am a child of exactly the same kind of marriage. Exactly. My dad is 60 now, mom 55, and am 25. He stills makes her look like a fool in front of everyone. Puts her down because she is not educated. After 27 years of this verbal and emotional abuse, my mom has zero confidence to stand upto anyone even outside the marriage. I am putting up with this shit for a year ( since I moved back home after last year at 24) but am secretly marshalling resources to move out. Forever. Start my own business. Work hard at it and stay the fuck away from my father’s emotional abuse.

My mom says at times, (when she is not trying to lie to herself and the society ) that she stayed in this marriage only for the sake of me. I would rather that she divorced the shit away when I wasnt even born.

Do you want to feel this way after 25 years? Decide. I am like the future version of your kid and am telling whats going to happen.

Get out when you can, sweetheart.

]]> By: Pavicic http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33061 Pavicic Sat, 24 Mar 2012 08:02:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33061 i have had a friend for 18 years just recently i started running i lost 15lbs and started to feel good about myself then i broke my foot badly. my friend and i use to go for a few beers every 2 weeks but since my foot was to swollen to cast i couldn't go a couple of weeks passed i was on cruches i  phoned and offered to pick him up DUI laws are strict in B.C. and his wife would pick him up so no one would drive and we could have beers at my place. now driving to his place with my left foot,stopping to get snacks and beer on crutches just to be a good friend after a couple of beers he proceeds to tell me how fat i am i did not lose it but just changed the topic but i haven't talked to him since and have no interest it feels like being kicked when your down am i wrong? i have had a friend for 18 years just recently i started running i lost 15lbs and started to feel good about myself then i broke my foot badly. my friend and i use to go for a few beers every 2 weeks but since my foot was to swollen to cast i couldn’t go a couple of weeks passed i was on cruches i  phoned and offered to pick him up DUI laws are strict in B.C. and his wife would pick him up so no one would drive and we could have beers at my place. now driving to his place with my left foot,stopping to get snacks and beer on crutches just to be a good friend after a couple of beers he proceeds to tell me how fat i am i did not lose it but just changed the topic but i haven’t talked to him since and have no interest it feels like being kicked when your down am i wrong?

]]> By: JosephKlr5541 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-1/#comment-33057 JosephKlr5541 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 19:04:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33057  What a self-important jerk she is. Why do you really care? Your stepson's girlfriend is a classic manipulator and is actually afraid of you. She is frightened and intimidated by you like a coward. I would never take that kind of talk from anyone. By the way you DO do something  you are taking care of business around the home which is an important job. Don't believe me stop doing it and see what happens. If you want to blog, write a book, or start a home business that's up to you not her. Just because you don't meet her twisted requirements of what makes a valued member of society does not make you any less important than anyone else.  What a self-important jerk she is. Why do you really care? Your stepson’s girlfriend is a classic manipulator and is actually afraid of you. She is frightened and intimidated by you like a coward. I would never take that kind of talk from anyone. By the way you DO do something  you are taking care of business around the home which is an important job. Don’t believe me stop doing it and see what happens. If you want to blog, write a book, or start a home business that’s up to you not her. Just because you don’t meet her twisted requirements of what makes a valued member of society does not make you any less important than anyone else.

]]> By: JosephKlr5541 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-1/#comment-33056 JosephKlr5541 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 18:53:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33056  Stop being his slave! You are better than that so acknowledge you value and stop being afraid to make a decisive change for the better. Move on and find better friends instead of being a victim.  Stop being his slave! You are better than that so acknowledge you value and stop being afraid to make a decisive change for the better. Move on and find better friends instead of being a victim.

]]> By: JosephKlr5541 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33055 JosephKlr5541 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 18:48:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33055 Life is too short for demeaning losers who are basically just trying to dominate you. The BEST way to handle these neurotic types is to break off all contact with them. When they are sitting around one day wondering why they don't have any friends then they may actually make a change in themselves.  If they don't change its not a big deal because they are not part of you life anyway. I had people walk over me so many times because I tried to be nice to these type of people and it never got me anywhere. I lost money and valuable time while they made me their slave. Life is too short for demeaning losers who are basically just trying to dominate you. The BEST way to handle these neurotic types is to break off all contact with them. When they are sitting around one day wondering why they don’t have any friends then they may actually make a change in themselves.  If they don’t change its not a big deal because they are not part of you life anyway. I had people walk over me so many times because I tried to be nice to these type of people and it never got me anywhere. I lost money and valuable time while they made me their slave.

]]> By: Dee http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33047 Dee Tue, 13 Mar 2012 03:38:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33047 Say to them "Big nose, big hose!" (means the same as "big feet, big meat). Then look at one of your friends who has a small nose, drop your eyes below his belt, and smirk. Say to them “Big nose, big hose!” (means the same as “big feet, big meat). Then look at one of your friends who has a small nose, drop your eyes below his belt, and smirk.

]]> By: Sil http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33043 Sil Fri, 09 Mar 2012 17:40:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33043 Hi, I am kinda going through the same thing these days. My cousins and aunt are constantly putting me down, accusing me of spreading rumors and gossiping when in fact it was her son who was doing that behind her back. Her son being a conniving person is hidden from everyone's eye cuz she made me the target for everything. I m the kind of person who gets upset really quickly and it's been bothering me immensely so much so that i can't   even concentrate on things i wanna do. I don't wanna drop down to the same level as her and exploit her son cuz thats just not me. Eventhough, i know that everything that she was blaming me is someone else's plan to put me and my family down. I m really upset and confused as to how to handle this situation. Please help. Hi, I am kinda going through the same thing these days. My cousins and aunt are constantly putting me down, accusing me of spreading rumors and gossiping when in fact it was her son who was doing that behind her back. Her son being a conniving person is hidden from everyone’s eye cuz she made me the target for everything. I m the kind of person who gets upset really quickly and it’s been bothering me immensely so much so that i can’t   even concentrate on things i wanna do. I don’t wanna drop down to the same level as her and exploit her son cuz thats just not me. Eventhough, i know that everything that she was blaming me is someone else’s plan to put me and my family down. I m really upset and confused as to how to handle this situation. Please help.

]]> By: Sil http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33044 Sil Fri, 09 Mar 2012 17:40:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33044 Hi, I am kinda going through the same thing these days. My cousins and aunt are constantly putting me down, accusing me of spreading rumors and gossiping when in fact it was her son who was doing that behind her back. Her son being a conniving person is hidden from everyone's eye cuz she made me the target for everything. I m the kind of person who gets upset really quickly and it's been bothering me immensely so much so that i can't   even concentrate on things i wanna do. I don't wanna drop down to the same level as her and exploit her son cuz thats just not me. Eventhough, i know that everything that she was blaming me is someone else's plan to put me and my family down. I m really upset and confused as to how to handle this situation. Please help. Hi, I am kinda going through the same thing these days. My cousins and aunt are constantly putting me down, accusing me of spreading rumors and gossiping when in fact it was her son who was doing that behind her back. Her son being a conniving person is hidden from everyone’s eye cuz she made me the target for everything. I m the kind of person who gets upset really quickly and it’s been bothering me immensely so much so that i can’t   even concentrate on things i wanna do. I don’t wanna drop down to the same level as her and exploit her son cuz thats just not me. Eventhough, i know that everything that she was blaming me is someone else’s plan to put me and my family down. I m really upset and confused as to how to handle this situation. Please help.

]]> By: cara http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33036 cara Tue, 28 Feb 2012 16:07:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33036 hi all my daughter has brought me for years . now her friend started . it all too much i have stop contact with her as i had no other choice ,she makes me feel really small.pretty sad tho . hi all my daughter has brought me for years . now her friend started . it all too much i have stop contact with her as i had no other choice ,she makes me feel really small.pretty sad tho .

]]> By: anne http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2009/02/people-who-put-you-down/comment-page-2/#comment-33033 anne Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:49:00 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=1115#comment-33033 my partner consistantly puts the phone down on me, right in the middle of a conversation, choosing not to hear the full story before kicking off. the rejection is so painful................. on trying to call back and explain or reason, the phone call is rejected over and over. I'm struggling to stop the pattern? my partner consistantly puts the phone down on me, right in the middle of a conversation, choosing not to hear the full story before kicking off. the rejection is so painful…………….. on trying to call back and explain or reason, the phone call is rejected over and over.

I’m struggling to stop the pattern?

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