Comments on: Confidence Interview – Rebecca Thorman of modite.com

By: kat

kat — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 08:52:02 +0000

I like that she pointed out that no one has it figured out.

Some people are quick to say someone lacks confidence but how can you accurately gage how someone feels about themself?

By: Steve

Steve — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 20:07:17 +0000

@Linda: It’s great that you found some confidence, and I agree that we’re all different. This blog’s littered with observations and experiences about how to gain confidence, and in my experience it’s a case of finding the confidence to smile, rather than the act of smiling giving you confidence (or at least real confidence).

The kind of confidence I deal with mostly is inner confidence – real, genuine, comforting, natural confidence. Outer confidence – the ability to shake someone’s hand, look them in the eye, smile in a room of strangers, etc – certainly has a role to play, but the gold is the inner confidence.

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 20:06:44 +0000

I was so shy as a child I retreated into my shell and stayed there for years. I found that smiling and saying hello to others gave me the confidence I needed to mature and join my peers. It was a long, hard struggle, but looking back, it began with a smile. We are all different and our different responses show that, but I wonder that you can say you disagree, but don’t offer personal observations about how to gain confidence. Criticism doesn’t show any confidence on your parts.

By: Steve

Steve — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 19:02:03 +0000

@ Barbara: Couldn’t agree more – that’s why I dont’ like the approach of the coaches who say the answer is just down to “standing tall”, “smiling” or “acting confident”

By: Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach

Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 10:59:37 +0000

Fixing a lack of self-confidence can ONLY come from within. I firmly believe that (having lived it).