Comments on: What to Do When You’ve Lost Your Confidence

By: Patrick

Patrick — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:06:48 +0000

I am a quiet person whom his confidence was destroyed by being queit. God made a uniqueness for each of us which may not be clear to those who are close to us. Sometimes being who you are may end up destroying you. I find that someone has to change his personality to make it the one people prefer for him, even if by the hated he is not intending any bad attitude, mosttimes it’s just that the people’s view is limited to the light,by the dark side which for many times has been the wall that made the difference between love and hate, making the one hated feel like he doesn’t deserve life, certain life fields start to seem bigger than a person as confidence melts when verbal abuse heats. One of the life fields I am talking about is finding a second heart for me to share the love that starts to float and dirtying the corners of my heart, I mean finding a girl is hard because I no longer believe in myself, I imagine the worst possible results when thinking about dating. This is the outcome of verbal abuse I faced both at home and the University of KwaZulu Natal in Pietermaritzburg.

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:00:36 +0000

@Pam: Hey Pam, momentum is part of it, for sure. But even in those quiet, still times where you’ve lost momentum, all you need to do is recognise that your confidence is still there, ready to be used again. It doesn’t go away, you just forget to use it. Thanks for the kind feedback and holler to let me know if there’s something you’d like me to cover here.

By: Pam Belding

Pam Belding — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:06:32 +0000

Your post really hit a chord with me. Your advice has helped me look at things with a different perspective. You helped remind me that just because I don’t feel confident immediately, when I keep trying, the confidence will eventually build up, like momentum. Getting through the fear creates strength, which in turn builds confidence.
Love the site, Steve.
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By: Steve

Steve — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 08:21:13 +0000

@ Sarah: As long as you move up from the drama and details you’re free to focus on whatever you want that helps. I’ve seen blog posts of yours where you do just that, so it seems to me you just need to remember what you already know…

By: Sarah Marie Lacy

Sarah Marie Lacy — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 12:23:55 +0000

Ughh my first comment just got lost in the interwebs. Grumble grumble.

Anyways, I really really like this. I like the idea of moving past the drama and details and envisioning how you’d like things to turn out and what steps you can take to do that.

I have a tendency to lose my confidence at a moment’s notice, so this is something I’m going to have to keep in mind!