Comments on: Are You Selfish Enough?

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 18:59:33 +0000

@Hilda: How nice of you to agree with me I think what’s interesting to me is how we make that decision, which is often sub-conscious. Our brain decides to be selfish or selfless in any given situation, what tips it one way or the other?

@URwingman: I guess that line is different for everyone and moves depending on the cicrumstances. It makes sense, but I think the sub-conscious nature of it might get folks into more problems. Perhaps the key is to elevate it to a deliberate, conscious choice?

@Ed: Need – good distinction. That’s most certainly a need and probably the fuel for being selfless. Thanks.

By: Ed

Ed — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 07:37:49 +0000

As many people have pointed out: Love your neighbour as yourself is no use if you don’t love yourself. Loving ourselves requires that we make sure we have what we need before we put others first…. Note that’s what we NEED, not just what we want.
Of course, there are times when an emergency arises and we ned to act now to help others however we feel; but those are the exceptions, not the rule.

By: URwingman

URwingman — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 03:54:53 +0000

There needs to be a balance. In order to receive value, you have to give value. It should be a subconscious action.

So I agree with you. You should be selfless but you still need to take care of yourself. There levels of selflessness that won’t be at your own expense.

It’s just a matter of knowing where the line is and understanding what few situations will force you to go beyond it. You should accept that and then practice the push and pull of selflessness and selfishness.

Does that make sense?
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By: Hilda

Hilda — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:15:28 +0000

I agree with all of it – both the first part about being selfish, and the second part about being selfless. I do think that being of service to others is one of the best ways to be personally happy and fulfilled, but on the flip side, if we don’t look after ourselves first then we have less to give to others. So, the more selfish we are about our own needs (as opposed to wants), the more selfless we can be. Makes perfect sense to me
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