“I hope you can help me with something Steve. I hate my job. I really do. I want to quit because I hate where I work and I dread Monday mornings, especially now the Holiday’s are over.
The people are fine for the most part, and some of the people I work with have become friends, but I hate the way I have to work and don’t get what my boss is doing at all. What if quitting is the wrong thing to do? I’m scared that if I leave it might be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Should I stick with it?”
- Nicole B. in LA
Oh Nicole, Nicole, Nicole. Hate’s a strong word, and you’ve it used with relish. It’s abundantly clear that you’re either in the wrong job or the wrong company, and here’s the thing - you don’t owe them anything. That might sound heartless or mercenary, but it’s true. When you went to work for them you signed a contract, which means that you sell them your time, your skills and your experience in exchange for a salary and benefits. When you look at the cold, hard facts it’s a business exchange - you have something that’s of value to them and they’re paying you for it.
That means that if the deal isn’t working out for you in the way you’d like it to you’re well within your rights to change things and move on. You ask me if it’s the wrong thing to do and if you should stick it out in your organisation. What’s the impact of you doing that? What would it be like to spend another 6 months or a year there? Zoom forwards to the end of the the year and see how you’d feel if you stuck around.
It’s natural to be scared about quitting work, especially if you don’t have anything else lined up just yet. That doesn’t need to hold you back from looking at your options and seeing what else is out there, and I guarantee you there are jobs out there with your name on them. I think you’d probably agree that the piece of you that’s scared or is thinking that you might as well stick it out is the small, scared, hide your head under the covers part. It’s the part of you that’s happy to settle and wants to aim low so you don’t get disappointed or run the risk of screwing up. That’s okay, we all have that. The trick is to be aware of it and manage it so that it doesn’t hold you back and end up damaging your sense of who you are.
So what about the better part of you? What about the part of you who’s massively capable and knows that you can get more of the good stuff? What would that part of you do here?
A big question here is is about the kind of experience you want to have in your work. Sure, you could stick it out and things may change, but it seems like you know full well what your experience of your workplace is. So what kind of experience do you want in your work and your career?
It sounds to me like you’re selling yourself short Nicole. Strike a balance between putting energy into doing your job well enough and looking at your options, and good luck for whatever happens next.
Stay tuned. Lots more articles coming up describing key strategies that will help you if you’re in a similar place to Nicole…
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January 20th, 2008 at 5:22 am
Hi, I can understand how Nicole feels, but she should look at the whole thing from a self development point of view. Like Steve says, be selfish, where you look at whats in it for you. How can you develop urself. Set time frames to achieve goals while working. That way you will be preoccupied with achieving them, u will add some zing to ur ‘boring’ job, and u will sharpen ur skills in time to move to a better job. Who knows, as a fallout ur boss will notice it and give u a promotion raise. I m not preaching, but like that Spanish explorer Cortes, burn ur boats and all comforts and move on and explore new territory where u may find ur true calling. Nicole life is too short. If u dont like it move on. Enjoy it.
Take care. Rudi.
February 16th, 2008 at 8:59 am
My answer would incorporate elements of both replies. It depends on knowledge and experience, certainly, what other jobs may be out there and whether they would be an improvement. As Steve says, though, there most certainly would be a better job out there.
One word of caution: Wherever you go you take yourself with you; so be sure that it is the job and not your own attitude that is the problem! If it’s the latter then the self improvement suggestion is particularly important.