I don’t want to sound smug, but I’ve got a pretty good life right now.
That’s not to say that life hasn’t slapped me round the face, stuck its foot out to trip me over or driven through a puddle and drenched me.
When I was 19 I spent 18 months on prescription painkillers; I had no idea who I was and no clue what it meant to live a life. I walked around lost, feeling numb.
When I turned 30 I hit another crisis point. My head just stopped working; ideas escaped me, the simplest actions seemed impossible and I didn’t see anyone for 3 months because I just couldn’t understand the thread of conversations. I ended up on a cocktail of anti-depressants for a year.
Why am I telling you this? For the simple reason that I’m glad I went through those times. I’m glad I’ve been completely lost in the middle of my own life. I’m glad I’ve been lower than low. I’m glad I’ve plumbed the depths.
Not for any masochistic reasons and I certainly don’t want a medal (although I do like shiny things), I just want to point out that without both of those times in my life (and all the other, smaller blips) I wouldn’t have discovered who I was.
The challenges you face in life don’t make you who you are, they reveal who you are.
Ever since I started coaching some 6 years ago, I’ve always said that it’s not what happens to you it’s what you do with what happens to you. Even though there are times when life just sucks, that may be the truest thing I’ve ever said.
Without those hard times and without those times that make you question how the heck you can go on, you don’t know the full extent of who you are and what you’ve got. Without adversity, you’ll never know what you’re truly capable of.
Every crisis makes you more adept at living your life. Each adversity adds to your inner confidence.
Live your life without experiencing adversity and you’ll be living in a cushioned, protected, safe and heavily limited environment. And that’s why adversity is a valid and necessary ingredient for truly confident living.
Don’t give the hard times a bad rap; you need them.