Sure, she’s made a couple of real stinkers when it comes to her film career (Charlie’s Angels 2 anyone?), but when I read a Sunday Times interview with her my pro-Demi opinion was proved correct. Not just because she’s pretty hot, apparently very charming and with a rare spirit, but because she seems to have things nicely together in her personal life and exhibits all the signs of true confidence.

In the interview, Demi talks about the different challenges she’s faced in her life. From her career doldrums to her harsh upbringing (alcoholic parents, kidney disease as a child and a step-father who committed suicide when he was 40 – enough to permanently f**k up most people) she takes it all and uses it to become a better version of herself.

“It’s like all things in life,” says Demi, “it’s a challenge that you have to find ways to make interesting for yourself.”

I love that. A lot of people would have crumbled against the challenges, pain and heartache she’s faced in life, whereas Moore experienced it all and became a better person and strong, confident woman as a result.

She used what happened in her life as a force for good in her own life, rather than a source of excuses that strip her self-confidence and self-esteem.

In the interview she goes on to talk about one of the most important things she’s learned, which is something that’s central to my coaching method:

“You have to find a sense of value that comes from within, not, as it was at times for me, from ego, from external things like success in my career. But that’s hard when you grow up without a sense of self-worth.”

That sense of value is what it’s all about, and it’s at the centre of true self-confidence and self-esteem. As she says, without it there’s a real temptation to look for success and validation externally and to develop an ego that has no centre or purpose, other than to feed itself.

Yes, it’s bloody hard to find your way when you don’t feel good enough to have what you want in life. I’ve been so low and lost that I never thought anything better would come along, and I thought that life had beaten me.

But if – and this is probably the only thing that Demi and I have in common – you find the thread of gold that runs through you it lays the foundations for true confidence and for everything that follows.

Now, anyone know how I can ask Demi out for a coffee?