Comments on: Honesty Time – Things WILL Change

By: Alan.C

Alan.C — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 03:18:00 +0000

I can relate to that. Ive achieved a bunch of things in my life, alt of personal things that I’m proud of and I can honestly say Ive changed and become a more well adjusted person but I still get uncomfortable talking about it the old me. I still cringe.
And even with what I have achieved I still hit times when I just get angry at the world, at everything. And all my pride about what a Kind, Calm, fair and just person I am go straight out the window. I’ll admit Ive even had daydreams about being wildly successful standing on a podium speaking to an audience and about how to improve their lives. Then some thought will enter my head and Ill feel doubt or get angry. Then ill feel like a fraud.I think thats just how it is. There is no end you just keep going and doing the best you can just like everybody else. Thats how I see it anyway.I feel pretty ok about my life but Id be lying if I said Im totally content. Why else would I be reading a personal development blog.

An example. I know a guy who is very very confident. I could tell you stories about things he’s done in bars in front of crowds of people but you get the picture. He once admitted to me that he often feels very self conscious. I was very surprised to hear him say that.

So I think most of us are doing our best to appear like we are all well balanced people. We don’t show the other stuff. And I think thats the way its meant to be. If we showed fear and doubth all the time people would start to feel uncomfortable around us.

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:50:34 +0000

@Bob: All too true – coaches are ‘supposed’ to have everything sorted, but everyone has their own stuff to deal with. Being a coach just gives me more tools to notice it and deal with it. Thanks for reading Bob!

By: Bob Firestone

Bob Firestone — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:41:20 +0000

It is strange how being honest with your self is the hardest person to be honest with.

I think it is fantastic that you are stepping forward and getting absolutely clear about what you need to do. With the changes you are making I am sure that you will find the way to move to the next level.

By: Steve

Steve — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 09:08:25 +0000

Let me know how your changes go Kathy – don’t let it slide! Thanks for the link love and for your feedback.

By: KathyHowe

KathyHowe — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:25:48 +0000

This is really a great post, Steve. I too am impressed with your candor and I am happy to tell you after reading this multiple times since it was originally posted, it has really inspired me to work on some changes in my own world.

Thanks so much for sharing yourself so HONESTLY!

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 30 May 2009 14:37:10 +0000

Not an easy post to write, so thank you Barbara. I appreciate your interest and will be sure to keep that self-honesty going.

By: Barbara Winter

Barbara Winter — Thu, 28 May 2009 22:08:59 +0000

Your candor just blew me away. This is what confidence looks like. Can’t wait to see where this new clarity takes you. Bravo!