Comments on: Face Up to Your Mediocrity http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/ Wired into Truly Confident Living Mon, 14 May 2012 20:18:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Steve http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/comment-page-1/#comment-22621 Steve Tue, 13 Apr 2010 07:53:08 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=2172#comment-22621 @Julia: Exactly. You got it. It's about openly acknowledging what you're just okay at (and always remember that being okay at something is *not* a bad thing) and have that free you up from all the self-doubt that can be caused by not being better. Thanks Julia! @Julia: Exactly. You got it. It’s about openly acknowledging what you’re just okay at (and always remember that being okay at something is *not* a bad thing) and have that free you up from all the self-doubt that can be caused by not being better. Thanks Julia!

]]> By: Julia http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/comment-page-1/#comment-22574 Julia Mon, 12 Apr 2010 11:11:22 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=2172#comment-22574 I agree on the fact that with some self-help, we are to believe we can be good at anything. But when I fail on something, it hits me harder in a sense because no matter how hard i focus to be, i can only be average, not the best. And if self-help ideas are giving me that I CAN be the best, then even though I improved from zero to five from a scale of ten, I'll still feel like i'm not at my best and feel like a failure; Just because I'm not 'perfect' in that whatever area. I may be pretty good at it, but I may not be perfect at it. So don't punish yourself and feel like a failure for not being perfect at it. Right? I agree on the fact that with some self-help, we are to believe we can be good at anything. But when I fail on something, it hits me harder in a sense because no matter how hard i focus to be, i can only be average, not the best. And if self-help ideas are giving me that I CAN be the best, then even though I improved from zero to five from a scale of ten, I’ll still feel like i’m not at my best and feel like a failure; Just because I’m not ‘perfect’ in that whatever area.

I may be pretty good at it, but I may not be perfect at it.
So don’t punish yourself and feel like a failure for not being perfect at it. Right?

]]> By: Stoorm http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/comment-page-1/#comment-22480 Stoorm Thu, 08 Apr 2010 10:28:20 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=2172#comment-22480 Thanks steve, liked this new topic you wrote about i think we need to define things more often same as u did, which always useful :) Thanks steve, liked this new topic you wrote about
i think we need to define things more often same as u did, which always useful :)

]]> By: Steve http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/comment-page-1/#comment-22479 Steve Thu, 08 Apr 2010 09:39:04 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=2172#comment-22479 @Walter: Important indeed, but I do differ with you when you say that we can be great at anything we put our minds too. One of the fallacies that the self-improvement industry has peddled is that "you can do anything", but unfortunately, I don't believe that's the case. Generally speaking you can be pretty good or average at most things if you put your mind to it, but that's not the same as being great at *anything* and *everything*. That's why it's so important to know what you "<em>chose to be</em>" and have that based on what matters to you, because that's where you can be more than great. Happiness in life is accepting the things you're okay at as well as the things you're great at. @Walter: Important indeed, but I do differ with you when you say that we can be great at anything we put our minds too. One of the fallacies that the self-improvement industry has peddled is that “you can do anything”, but unfortunately, I don’t believe that’s the case. Generally speaking you can be pretty good or average at most things if you put your mind to it, but that’s not the same as being great at *anything* and *everything*. That’s why it’s so important to know what you “chose to be” and have that based on what matters to you, because that’s where you can be more than great.

Happiness in life is accepting the things you’re okay at as well as the things you’re great at.

]]> By: Walter http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/2010/04/face-mediocrity/comment-page-1/#comment-22462 Walter Wed, 07 Apr 2010 12:55:32 +0000 http://theconfidenceguyonline.com/?p=2172#comment-22462 Believing in one's self is extremely important if we want to grow as a person. I don't believe in mediocrity, what I do know is that we can be great at anything we put our mind on. What constitutes our success in life is being happy at what we chose to be. :-) Believing in one’s self is extremely important if we want to grow as a person. I don’t believe in mediocrity, what I do know is that we can be great at anything we put our mind on. What constitutes our success in life is being happy at what we chose to be. :-)

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