The Confidence Guy

Wired into Truly Confident Living

Jul 29

You feeling lucky?I’ve heard that I’m more likely to have a satellite fall from space and land on my house than I am to win the lottery.  That’s why I don’t but a ticket, because if I was to win the lottery at those extreme odds then a satellite would be sure to fall from space and land on my house.

That’s not the kind of luck I need, thank you very much.

But aside from the lottery, luck has a larger role to play in our lives than we might think.  Luck is traditionally seen as some kind of magical force that operates for good or ill in a person’s life, shaping circumstances and events and smiling favourably on those “lucky enough”.

Some people carry around a rabbit’s foot for good luck.  Other people have little rituals they follow in the pursuit of being lucky, while others perform rituals to avoid being unlucky (when a black cat crosses your path, when you spill salt, break a mirror, see a lone magpie or when you forget to call it “The Scottish Play” for example).

We’ve all known people who “got lucky”, and we’ve all known people who were down on their luck.  I’ve had my own fair share of good and bad luck.  I flew around the world first class in my old career.  I’ve met and stayed in touch with some amazing people who I met at random.  When debt threatened to bankrupt me I somehow found myself in the position of being a sought-after freelance producer in leading ad agencies.  I have an incurable debilitating illness.  I suffered from depression when I was made redundant in 2001.  I was rejected by a woman I loved.

Some good luck, some bad luck.

That’s how it goes, and these traditions and memes are woven into our lives without us ever really thinking about what it means.  But the word has come up a few times in my life recently, so I opened it up to see what was inside.

They say that luck is about being in the right place at the right time, and if that’s true then surely the trick is to spot where the right place might be and to get there in good time.  Makes sense, right?

The trick to luck then, is opportunity.

So it follows that you’ll never be lucky if you sidestep the right place or the right time; you’ll never be lucky if you second guess yourself, dilly-dally, get diverted or change your mind on the way.  Luck is about being mindful enough to notice opportunity when it comes along and then being willing to step into it.

This could be a deliberate choice or it could be a subtle nudge from your intuition – but regardless of whether it’s conscious or sub-conscious, it requires trust.  Being lucky requires that you trust yourself to take a step forwards, to trust your gut and to trust yourself to deal with whatever might happen.

Moving to Amsterdam this summer could have been one of those right times and right places.  Turns out that it probably isn’t, but I had to go and see for myself, and I know it will lead to something else that just might be extraordinary.

Luck is trusting yourself to step into what just might be the right place and the right time.

Those people who always seem to land on their feet and always seem to get lucky?  Those are the people who have developed a way of thinking that encourages self-trust.  Those are the people who have wired luck into their brains.

You can do that too.  You can be the luckiest person alive.  It just takes confidence.

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7 comments on “How to be Luckier Than Everyone Else”

  1. Coworking in Florida Says:

    I think a prerequisite for being lucky (before opportunity) is really “trying it” –that is ACTION.

    That’s the old (and logical) idea of if you don’t play the lotto, you’ll never win. Opportunity is a favorable condition that will increase your chances to be lucky when you take ACTION, but without action, opportunity will not produce results.

    Makes sense?

  2. Steve Says:

    @Coworking: You bet action’s necessary! But the pre-requisite to taking action? Confidence. You gotta trust yourself to take that step, no matter how big or small it is, and you have to trust that you can deal with whatever happens. Natural confidence allows you to both notice that opportunity and to take action. A pretty good deal if you ask me.

  3. Coworking in Florida Says:

    Well said Steve… Totally agreed: Confidence is prerequisite of taking action and not being afraid of failure helps. :)

  4. Bob Firestone Says:

    Luck is preparation in action.

    The better prepared a person is the luckier they appear to be. There is no way to prepare for playing the lottery. You have no impact on how the result is generated.

  5. Steve Says:

    @Coworking: Awesome, how about you and me tell the whole world?!

    @Bob: I’m not sure I agree that the better prepared you are the luckier you appear. The more prepared you are the more able you are to adapt in some circumstances, thus enabling you to appear like you’re “landing on your feet”. But I think preparation can too often be a barrier to taking action or a way of side-stepping responsibility. I think sometimes preparation can remove the element of awareness and spontaneity that can really be instrumental in being “lucky”. I see your point in that if you set things up to work out ahead of time that things are more likely to work out, but isn’t this “being thorough” rather than “being lucky”?

  6. Vince Says:

    I’ve never heard luck and trust associated but I really like that concept. I have more often heard that luck is more a state of mind about past experiences. For example, some people choose to focus on the negative and deem themselves unlucky or don’t take responsibility and blame their actions on luck. Trust leaves room for the possibility that something good is going to happen.
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  7. Steve Says:

    @Vince: Responsibility is key – and you can’t trust yourself unless you accept responsibility for what you do. Great point, thanks!

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